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Our first fantastic month as a family of four…

So the ‘Babymoon’ – a daft word but it seems appropriate right now – has finally come to an end. Last week saw Daddy going back to work and the routines of everyday life beginning to resume after three lovely weeks all together. And this morning Little Mister turned four weeks old, before officially becoming a one-month-old on Friday. But before these magical early days become too distant a blur and I’m overcome by the exhaustion of looking after two little ones on my own, I wanted to share some of the memories and milestones from the first 28 days of Little Mister’s life. It’s taken me a week of snatched moments to finishing writing this post, such is the daily juggle now!Our first month as a family of four

Our baby son’s arrival coincided with a spell of decent hot weather and we’ve been out and about much more this time around than in the weeks after his sister was born. I suppose we’re more confident and a bit more relaxed having successfully reared one newborn! And staying inside with a boisterous toddler is a surefire way for everyone to go mad.

Little Mister has already enjoyed a family barbecue to celebrate his cousin turning seven – I blame her for his late arrival and my subsequent discomfort since she was so desperate for the new baby to share her birthday month! He wasn’t much interested in the fabulous Narnia-themed chocolate birthday cake but Mummy was and I’m sure it was good for my milk supply! It was a lovely family occasion and, of course, a chance to show him off.

There have also been several picnics, one in the park and one at our local vicarage. Little Mister has already felt the air on his cheeks – yes, those ones – as we’ve got to grips with his lunchtime nappy explosions! But it’s been wonderful to sit back on the picnic rug and enjoy our little family.

Family picnic

Family picnic fun

Food actually features quite heavily in the last few weeks. I’m a nervous eater when pregnant. I worry about everything, especially food that’s been prepared outside the home. Eating anything more adventurous than a cheese and tomato pizza in a restaurant was out of the question.

So I’ve been making up for months of self-inflicted food tedium… starting off with a takeaway curry binge the night Little Mister was born – a tradition started when Little Miss arrived. I have to have the sweetest, creamiest, sickliest curry on the menu. We followed up with takeaway Chinese the next night, fish and chips a couple of days later and several lunches out before returning to the Indian menu and a lamb biryani, which it turns out Little Miss will happily eat!

We also has a trip to Wagamama as a threesome on one of Little Miss’s nursery days. Little Mister was impeccably behaved, sleeping throughout the whole meal, so it was a chance for Daddy and I to feel like a proper grown-up couple again for an hour or two. It’s been a while! It also brought back fond memories of us eating out together when Little Miss was the sleeping baby in the pram.

Food, we can already tell, is clearly going to be very important to Little Mister too. After a slightly slow start, he’s taken to breastfeeding with great enthusiasm! He almost beats his little fists on my chest when he’s hungry and will try and nibble the shoulder of whoever happens to be holding him when that tummy starts to rumble.

Post-feed calm and cuddles

Post-feed calm and cuddles

When he was weighed at six days old he had lost less than an ounce – his sister, at the same stage, had dropped more than half a pound. He obviously takes after his father, who apparently actually gained weight in his first week! By his most recent check, at 13 days, Little Mister was up to 10lb 1oz, a weight it took Little Miss more than six weeks to get up to! He definitely has his Daddy’s long limbs, while our daughter has inherited my shorter ones!

But although our baby boy is bigger than his sister was, and has more hair, they do look very similar as babies. We’ve got very similar photos of the two of them, as you can see…

Spot the sibling difference

Spot the sibling difference!

Little Miss has taken her brother’s arrival pretty well for a 2-and-a-quarter-year-old. It must be hard having to suddenly share Mummy and Daddy. It probably helps that she was already obsessed with ‘dollies’ before he arrived so she now loves pretending to look after her own babies, copying the things we do for Little Mister. It’s very sweet. She has a few dolly-sized nappies and we’ve let her have a few of her old tiny baby clothes – they never fitted her ‘big’ baby brother anyway. But I constantly have to stop her stealing more of her brother’s stuff – nappies, muslins, the car seat, his bouncy chair, all of them are nabbed for her dolls given half a chance! That said, her dollies are proving a very useful distraction for when I need to change poopy nappies without a toddler’s help!

Mini me nappy changing

Dolly needs her nappy changing too!

Little Mister’s early milestones have included his first experience of water (excluding his unfortunate habit/our parenting fail of weeing in his own face on the changing mat) when he had his first bath. He was a bit angry about it to start with but since then he’s become pretty chilled in his little tub and we think he takes after his sister in enjoying a nice warm soak now.

Another milestone saw the little man being made all official when we registered his birth. He greeted the occasion with a demand to be fed while we gave all our details to the registrar, followed by a loud poo just as we were handed over his certificate!

It’s been a lovely laid back first month. Of course we I’ve had my moments of feeling completely overwhelmed – with love, responsibility, exhaustion and frustration – but I’ve surprised myself with how well I’ve coped most of the time. Looking after a newborn baby does feel that little bit easier second time around. Keeping a bossy toddler happy, now that’s the real challenge!

Little Mister 3 weeks old

Little Mister at almost 3 weeks old

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The one where the toddler gets naked!

Word of the Week #21 

Over the last few weeks we’ve gradually been finding Little Miss in ever increasing states of undress by the time we retrieve her from her cot each morning.

For a long time now upon waking she’s been evicting the various beloved cuddly toys that she insists are safely tucked in with her each night. Clearly they’re not so essential come first light as they are unceremoniously dumped over the side of her cot, landing with a series of thuds.

Next she moved onto unzipping herself from her sleeping bag. Then came sock removal – again an item she absolutely insists on having for bedtime whatever the weather!

The last few weeks have seen her take things up another notch, moving on to starting the day topless.

And Thursday of this week saw us greeted by a completely starkers toddler… wearing nothing but a pleased-with-herself smile. Thankfully the nappy she’d taken off was only a wet one or I doubt I’d be telling this tale with quite as much humour! So my Word of the Week has to be… Word of the Week - NakedThe implications of this are dire for a mother who generally struggles to heave herself out of bed first thing in the morning. I’m now far too nervous to risk leaving her longer than five minutes or so once we’ve heard the first shouts from her bedroom. I dread the possibility of arriving to find her standing naked in the middle of a full-on, cot-based dirty protest!

So it looks like there’ll be no more attempts to eke out anything resembling a lay-in from now on! We’ve got away with it for a long time – she used to just lay in her cot, happily chatting and singing. All good things come to an end I suppose!

This post is part of the Word of the Week linky run by fellow blogger Jocelyn over at The Reading Residence. The idea is very simple, every week you come up with one word to sum up your week. My previous words include: Can, HappyStickersCalm, AnticipationSinging, BirthdaysNo! and family.

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Toddler says no!

Word of the Week #14

I’m told it happens to all parents but one of our toddler’s most uttered words at the moment is that dreaded two-letter one, usually accompanied by a whining tone. It’s…

Word of the Week - No

It seems our little girl increasingly knows her own mind and what she does and doesn’t want to do, and she now has absolutely no qualms about letting Mummy and Daddy know when something is not to her liking.

Sometimes there is logic to her negativity. When I say ‘aren’t you going to eat your cabbage?’ and the answer is ‘no’, it’s not really a massive surprise. I’m not a huge fan either but I can put on an Oscar-worthy performance of enjoying the much-maligned veg to try and encourage her to give it a go! Clearly my acting skills aren’t as convincing as I thought yet, somewhat irritatingly, her nursery has managed to come up with a vastly superior, magical cabbage recipe as apparently she willingly ate it there last week – grrrr!

Then there’s the illogical. She wants a biscuit. We offer her said biscuit. “NO!” She doesn’t want that one. But she’s quite willing to eat the next one in the packet. The same, identical biscuit!??? I’m not sure whether this was purely an act of toddler madness or a more cunning ploy on her part as we left the rejected biscuit laying on the side and  found her happily eating it about 20 minutes later!

Toddler says no!

The other phrase she’s recently adopted, that really takes the biscuit (no pun intended given the last paragraph!), is “Mummy go away!” This is most often heard when Mummy has been woken by shouting and hauled herself out of bed, with not a hope of a lay-in, to go and get the ungrateful little darling out of her cot for breakfast! And the toddler has decided that only Daddy will do that day. But Daddy is in the shower/in the loo/pretending to still be asleep!

Although I know it’s normal for toddlers go through this stage of negativity as they start to assert their independence, it has got me thinking about how we can do more to positively encourage her (probably a whole new blog post!). I’m increasingly aware of how often we say ‘no’ to her and I’m trying to make more effort to explain things differently when she does something we’d rather she didn’t. I say trying because can be it is so hard at times!

So Little Miss has been two for all of a week and is certainly testing the boundaries more now. Wish us luck!

This post is part of the Word of the Week linky run by fellow blogger Jocelyn over at The Reading Residence. The idea is very simple, every week you come up with one word to sum up your week.

My previous words include:

Can, HappyStickersProudSpringCalm, Anticipation, Singing, Reading, and Birthdays.

The Reading Residence

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As you turn two…

Dear Little Miss,

This time two years ago we were eagerly waiting for you to arrive. I was trying to remain calm and patient, especially as I was convinced my due date was later than the hospital was saying. I actually didn’t dare expect that you really would arrive this week at all! But thankfully you had other ideas.

This time two years ago we didn’t yet know you were a little girl and we still weren’t sure what we would call you. Naming a baby felt like a huge responsibility so we hoped we’d know what it should be when we saw you and much to my surprise we did within minutes of your birth decide. I usually take ages to make up my mind but when the all-important moment arrived we seemed to just know – and luckily agree. Hopefully you’ll still approve of our choice when you’re older!

This time two years ago we already loved you, of course we did, but we didn’t truly appreciate just how much. We didn’t yet understand just how much our lives would change for the better once we had you safely in our arms. We hadn’t quite imagined the depth of the joy we would feel when we met you for the first time and how much we would want to protect and care for you.

This time two years ago we hadn’t quite realised just how daunting it would feel to leave the hospital with you, our tiny, delicate newborn, a new life which we would be entirely responsible for nurturing. The night after you arrived I couldn’t sleep a wink. You’d been a little bit sick a few hours after being born so I stayed awake all night watching you, just to be sure you were ok. And I did what I often do when approaching something new or unfamiliar. I decided I’d better read another book about it! So at 3am, from my hospital bed, I ordered three more baby care books from Amazon! I’d already read several but at that point it just didn’t feel enough and I so wanted to do the very best for you. I still do. And the books did come in pretty useful so it wasn’t a completely mad thing to do. I also made lots of lists during those very early days!

This time two years ago we didn’t yet know just how wonderful it would be to watch you grow and develop. How every day would bring new little things. There are the big milestones that everyone gets very excited about… first smiles, first words, first steps. But every single day we notice something different, you discover new things, learn new skills. Right now those moments are coming especially thick and fast as you become more and more independent.

This time two years ago I didn’t yet know we would get to celebrate my birthday as a new little family. You arrived two days ahead of schedule, not something you get from your usually-running-a-little-bit-late mother! Your perfect timing meant we were able to come home from hospital the night before my birthday and wake up all together on my special day. It really was a magical time.

You were, are and always will be the very best birthday present I’ve ever had. The last two years have been the best of our lives and we’re so looking forward to celebrating your special day with you later this week. X

 Mother and daughter 2012

Mummy with her surprise early birthday present back in 2012

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Word of the Week #6

We’ve had a good week, with lots of things to feel positive about but the word – or emotion – I’ve felt the most, and will therefore choose as my Word of the Week, has been:

Word of the Week - Proud

Of course, like any parent, I always feel proud of my Little Miss but there have been some really magic moments this week that have just made my heart swell and my face beam. It’s so lovely seeing her develop and learn new skills. They seem like such little things – like learning to take her own trousers off – but to her they are so important and the look of pleasure on her little face when she masters something is pure joy.

This week she’s started gathering up her own clothes and proudly putting them in her washing basket each night – completely of her own accord, I swear! She’s also stringing more and more words together – like pointing at a picture in the Bear Hunt book and telling me ‘bear drawing’ and he was indeed. And we enjoyed a lovely day out at Brighton Sealife Centre yesterday with friends and their toddler, where it was wonderful to see her interacting and having such fun with their little girl, as well as enjoying all the aquatic creatures on display. Both my husband and I felt incredibly proud and blessed.

And so as not to be a complete baby bore, there is a small piece of pride I’ve reserved for myself. At work this week I finished the writing stage of three publications, on time and without any major hiccups, meaning I now just have the design stages to work through. It was a task I’d felt pretty daunted by at the beginning of the year, so I’m both relieved and pleased to have got them done without losing my sanity!

I hope everybody else has had a good week and look forward to catching up on your Word of the Week posts.

This post is part of the Word of the Week linky run by fellow blogger Jocelyn over at The Reading Residence. The idea is very simple, every week you come up with one word to sum up your week.

My previous words have been CanRelievedMidnight, Happy and Stickers.

The Reading Residence

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