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Working mum woes…

Today, juggling motherhood with work has felt difficult. Balancing my priorities and responsibilities has felt almost impossible and I’m left with the feeling that I haven’t been able to perform either of my roles as well as I’d have liked. I’ve felt tired, guilty, frustrated and overwhelmed.

Poor Little Mister isn’t very well. He’s been fighting a temperature and is so miserable. My usually happy, busy little boy has been floored by a nasty virus. Really, I should have been at home with him.

Working Mum WoesThe problem is that working part-time, Monday to Wednesday, means that missing today would have made my short working week even shorter. With some big deadlines looming and the two recent Bank Holidays having already curtailed my hours, staying at home didn’t feel like an option.

Having only recently returned from maternity leave, I do feel under pressure to prove myself again. My work is important to me and, of course, I want others to value what I’m doing. After almost a year out of the office, I want to show that I can still have an impact and am good at what I do. I want to feel good at what I do again.

But my brain just wasn’t feeling it today. After a broken night responding to the little man’s distressed cries, my thoughts were sluggish. My creative juices just wouldn’t flow and any flourish that I might have had in the past felt totally diminished.

I’d arrived late, thanks in the main to an unhelpful fit of willfulness from my toddler. The persistent rain and traffic that seemed to be conspiring against me didn’t help matters either. And Little Mister was never far from my thoughts, even though he was safely at home being looked after perfectly well by Daddy who was in a better position than me to take the work hit.

I know we probably did the right thing today. That I at least was able to get something, rather than nothing, done and be present among my colleagues. But my inner critic keeps telling me that if I’m going to spend a day away from my sick child then I really should have made it count. I should have been firing on all cylinders, producing dazzling copy. I can’t help but feel like I’ve failed all round.

I know I’m being over dramatic and that I’ve heaped this pressure on myself – why do we do that? I know that my colleagues probably didn’t notice that I was struggling to be productive and that I still have time to ‘pull it out of the bag’ before next week. I know today could have been so much worse on so many levels. That I should, and do, feel grateful for all the good things.

As can be said about so many things in parenthood, I know this will pass. It will all be ok. Tomorrow is another day.

Has anyone else been struggling with the juggle this week? Do let me know any tips

Image: Stuart Miles at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

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Word of the Week #3

It’s been another busy few days and the hours I’ve been keeping are summed up by my Word of the Week…

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It’s a time I’ve seen far too much of lately.

I can’t blame a frenetic social life. These days, as if! Nor is it down to a wakeful toddler. Thankfully Little Miss has always been a good sleeper – a bit like her mum in normal circumstances!

No, it’s an important work deadline that’s seen me burning the midnight oil.

Generally my work/life balance is pretty good. When Little Miss was nine months old I went back to work three days a week. I was lucky to be able to return to my old job on these part-time hours. But sometimes there just aren’t enough hours in the office.

I know this current spell of what is effectively unpaid overtime will be short-lived. Calm will be restored once that deadline is hit.

But for now I’ll be trying to channel the positive energy of my first Word of the Week, ‘can’. And by next week I should be back to the feeling of last week’s choice, ‘relieved’!

Are any other working parents out there feeling up against it at the moment? How do you cope when the pressure’s on?

This post is part of the Word of the Week linky run by fellow blogger Jocelyn over at The Reading Residence. The idea is very simple, every week you come up with one word to sum up your week.

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The Sunday night dash

Some people call it the ‘day of rest’ but I’ve just completed what I call the ‘Sunday night dash’ (although technically it began late afternoon). It’s that time of the week where a whole load of household admin has to get done. I work full days Monday to Wednesday and while my natural instinct is to collapse in a heap in front of the TV, I’ve learnt the hard way that the start of the week generally runs more smoothly if I get ahead of the game.

So on the to do list for the last few hours has been hoovering, stripping beds, sorting washing, packing nursery bags (being sure to remember the new wipes and toothpaste requested), packing my bag and then finally looking at our online banking and wondering just how we managed to put so much on the credit card. The last point is one that’s gone on another of my lists – we must transfer the balance to an interest free one!

Anyway, I’ll keep it short and sweet as I always feel twitchy about getting a decent night’s sleep on Sundays so that I feel on the ball for work! And I won’t be held responsible for my actions if next door’s wind chimes get going in the much-hyped storm that’s due to hit tonight!

Does anyone else find Sunday nights just a little bit stressful?

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